What are you worth?

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They are typical conversations starters: “What do you do?”, “What have you been doing?”,  “Have you been busy recently?”

For busy sorts who seem to be able to cram a weeks worth of activities into a day, the question can unleash a breathtaking tornado of replies that leaves the questionner quite dizzy, and surprised that they still found the time to talk to you!

When first impressions count, who in their right mind would want to admit “not much”?!

Society recognises hard workers and achievers. We invest a lot of time, money and effort  to become ‘successful’, we are told that ‘hard work pays’ and people who contribute to society are rewarded with honours and decorations.

Social media can tell us how much we are worth by a Klout Score. (Basically, a number between 1-100 that represents your influence depending on the quality and quantity of your followers.) I’ve always thought it would be unhealthy to look up mine!

We need to be wary of building  our identity on what we do, where we’ve been or who we know, or even how others see us; what we wear, what we drive, where we live, where we go or even our Klout scores!

According to The New Statesman, there are only 50 people who do matter! Does that leave the rest of us worthless?

50 people who matter


Illness can strike anyone at any time and can easily strip you bare of self worth. It can leave you wondering how much of the real you is left. Does it mean that your worth has plummeted, or in Klout terms, been reset to zero?

It’s a thought that has always been near the surface for me. I’ve worked with young people for decades in a voluntary capacity and one of my over riding aims is for children to recognise their own true worth. However the full weight of this has only hit me since my ME relapse in September 2013. I am no longer a professional woman, I no longer mingle with people in the public eye, I no longer lead at church, I’m no longer the do-it-all Mum, and I’m no longer the person that can give practical help to others.

Humour and friendly banter is  always present in our house.no such thing as... I know when I asked my Son to get something out of the fridge for me recently, his reply was intended that way. However, the once edifying fridge magnet that was thrust into my face now had a chilling sting to it. It read “There is no such thing as a non working Mother”. Had I become “no such thing”? To become invisible to the world is one thing but to become invisible to your children is quite another.

As Christians, we profess unconditional love and grace from a God who created us. When the penny finally drops that there is nothing we can do to make God love us more, and nothing we can do to make God love us less, it is truly liberating. Demonstrating this to one another, however, can be more challenging.

It’s been sobering to discover that the only communication that comes from some people is when they want you to do something. People that I had invested time, energy and sacrificed much for with a shared conviction and purpose. It hurt when even a simple ‘thank you’ or ‘take care’ never even came since my illness. The silence can send you back to ponder “what am I worth?”

Thankfully, there have been many more who have stood by me, illness and all. The scale of the gesture isn’t important but knowing that people still value you for who you are and not what you are has been a blessing. It can be the simplest, briefest of comments that can make the difference to your day and make you feel visible again.

This might not sound surprising in an individual way but corporately we need to take care too. In churches, we should be wary of only promoting the good news stories. We love to celebrate lives transformed and people healed. This is only right and I would probably be among the first to lead the whooping! However, we need to be honest, real and authentic in our lives and faith. There are people whose struggle only goes from bad to worse. Does the fact that God hasn’t answered their prayer with healing mean they are worth less than others? Of course the answer is no, but we need to demonstrate that in how we behave and treat one another. Admitting things are rubbish when they are doesn’t compromise our faith but authenticates it. In my experience it’s been much easier to find Jesus in the rubbish than in the glitz!

When people’s reactions have been so unpredictable I’ve been so grateful for the love of my family and sure certainty of God’s grace. God’s gentle whispered blessings have at times been deafening and have come from the most unexpected of places.

In the world’s eyes I could be seen as broken, lifeless, and spent, but the last 10 months have taught me a lot about myself and others. I pray that I will always see the true value of people around me and reflect their worth through God’s eyes no matter what their situation.

So what am I worth? What have I become? I’m certainly not the same person that I used to be, but I’m not ready to be tossed out with the rubbish either! The words of a hymn I used to sing sums it up best for me:


 I can be changed...
I am a new creation
No more in condemnation
Here in the grace of God I stand
My heart is overflowing
My life just keeps on going
Here in the grace of God I stand
And i will praise you Lord
I will sing of all that you have done
A joy that knows no limit
And lightness in my spirit
Here in the grace of God I stand
"Iam a new creation"
“Iam a new creation”









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